Dear Reader:

My wife of 30+ years sent me the following in an email… her exact words were  “Lets try to live by this. I think it is amazing.” Needless to say I agree with her…she has an uncanny knack of finding this kind of prose that makes a whole lot of sense, at least, to me. In our first year of marriage she had found a postcard, whilst rummaging through our after-marriage paraphernalia, you know…the kind of stuff young married couples do… Now the postcard outlined 10 rules for a happy marriage…and at that time she had me, both of us, vow to live by these rules…we’ve tried our best to live by these rules, very simple words to read but slightly more difficult to make them a way of life…however, we’ve done our best…we’ve been together, and I must emphasize, very happily, for 30+ years of togetherness. She’s been using these 10 rules of marriage in her speeches at weddings…and she loves speaking at weddings… she always get a great round of applause after delivering the rules, even from those who have heard it before…

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As a result I’ve decided to share the contents of her email with you… she named the subject line “Great Life Lessons”…

Written by Regina Brett, 90 years old, of the Plain Dealer, Cleveland , Ohio .
"To celebrate growing older, I once wrote the 45 lessons life taught me. It is the most requested column I’ve ever written. My odometer rolled over to 90 in August, so here is the column once more."


1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends and parents will. Stay in touch.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry; God never blinks.
16. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
17. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
18. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness but you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words ‘In five years, will this matter?’
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
36. Growing old beats the alternative — dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood.
38. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
42. The best is yet to come…
43. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
44. Yield.
45. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift."

I hope, dear reader, that you’ve found some solace in these observations of life…and that you can apply just a few of these to your life…
Keep well and God bless…and all that jivin’ around… here’s one of my favourite poems from one of my most favourite people…